Asking for help is a slippery slope, but why is that? Why is it that many individuals feel uncomfortable asking for any type of assistance whether it be for; mental health, racial, societal, social, financial, motor vehicle, health issues, or whatever issues may require an individual to need assistance. Many may feel ashamed due to a need for independence, fear of judgment, and not wanting to feel incompetent. Nevertheless, These feelings can break relationships, friendships, even ruin opportunities. You can not just be willing to receive the help you must also be willing to give help equally but not so much so that it is overbearing.
You can not help others if you can not help yourself. Some people will run around and do everything for everybody when in reality those individuals may or may not be doing anything for them. Why help those who do not reciprocate that help? A better question is why help someone if are not in the position to do so, or are unhappy about it? As human beings, we tend to over-exert ourselves to help those who do not want to be helped, choose not to help themselves, or when given the opportunity would not be as eager to help you as you may be to help them. When you help others and they do not appreciate your help or do not return help to you when needed it pushes you away from...
A. Wanting to ask for help B. Wanting to offer help and C. Being willing to receive or offer help with good intent.
If you do not ask for help you are too full of yourself and if you do then you are too needy, that needs to stop. I can say asking for help in the black community is almost criminal. This foggy cloud surrounding asking for help and receiving genuine help needs to be cleared up because we lose too many individuals due to feeling like they can not ask for help. We lose so many friendships over not being able to give and receive help with good intent. We even lose opportunities over not being able to accept help and constructive criticism. If you help someone it should be because you genuinely want to and if they receive your help it should be because they are willing to offer you that same help in return in whatever form you may need it.
I also need to work on getting out of that foggy cloud, that is society at its finest because I also do not like asking for help. After all, it tends to get thrown in my face, used as a weapon, or genuinely may become a problem at the end of the day. To save me the headache the stress, I just do not like to ask. Let's work on that together, grow together, and build together. #TeaTimeMeTimeWeTime
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